Bad habits more acceptable than tapping? Please weigh in on this!

Yesterday, I was talking to client who had a fear of public speaking. She was preparing to give a very important presentation to her boss which could potentially catapult her career. We were discussing ways she could tap under the table using EFT points on her fingers, hands and wrists just prior to speaking so she could remain calm and confident.

She said, “This is great! If anyone noticed it would just look like I had bad habit, like biting my nails or something.”

So what’s wrong with this picture?!? We live in a society where it’s more socially acceptable to have a bad habit than to publically apply a healing technique that is literally change lives for the better!?!

What can we, you and I, do to change this mindset? I want to hear from you today, so please pass on your ideas, thoughts, and comments.

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A diagram of tapping points can be found at http://www.lifeworkswitheft.com/tapping_points.htm.

Round 1

Setup: Even though I’m petrified to speak in public, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself. Even though I get real nervous speaking to an audience, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself anyway. Even though I’m all jitters when I speak publically, I deeply and profoundly accept and forgive myself.

Tapping Sequence:

This fear of public speaking
What if I make a fool of myself?
What if I stumble over my words?
Or forget what I want to say?
This fear I’ll embarrass myself
This fear of public humiliation
My heart is pounding
My body is shaking

Round 2

Setup: Even though I’m still feeling some fear about speaking in public, I choose to feel calm and confident. Even though I’m still feeling some fear about speaking in public, I choose to feel calm and confident. Even though I’m still feeling some fear about speaking in public, I choose to feel calm and confident.

Tapping Sequence:

This remaining fear
This remaining fear of embarrassment
This remaining fear of humiliation
This remaining anxiety & shakiness
This remaining tension and worry
This remaining fear and anxiety
This remaining fear of looking stupid
This remaining fear and worry

I choose to feel calm and confident
I choose to feel relaxed
I choose to feel calm and confident
I choose to know I can do this with ease
I choose to feel relaxed
I choose to feel calm and confident
I choose to share what I know with others
And I choose to do this with a calm confidence

This remaining fear
I choose to feel calm and confident
This remaining anxiety
I choose to speak clearly and confidently
This remaining fear of embarrassment
I choose to feel relaxed and at ease
This remaining fear of humiliation
I choose to give myself permission to have fun

Today’s Tapping Script: Feeling Overwhelmed

For basic EFT instructions, log onto www.lifeworkswitheft.com/pdf/eft_short_cut_method.pdf.

A diagram of tapping points can be found at http://lifeworkswitheft.com/tapping_points.htm.

Round 1:

Setup: Even though I’m feeling totally overwhelmed with all I have to do today, I deeply and completely accept who I am anyway. Even though there’s too much to do and not enough time to do it, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I don’t know how I’m going to get it all done and I just feel like giving up, I deeply and completely accept how I’m feeling in this moment.

Tapping Sequence:
I feel totally overwhelmed.
There’s way too much to be done.
I’m stressed and I haven’t even gotten started yet.
I just want to go back to bed and give up.
There’s just too much to do.
There’s no time for me.
No one should expect me to do all this is.
It’s just not fair!

Round 2:

Setup: Even though I feel resentful that I have to do all this today, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself. Even though I’m angry and resentful that I’m expected to do all this work, I deeply and profoundly accept how I feel. Even though I’m angry and resentful that no one even appreciates all that I do, I deeply and profoundly, appreciate all that I am.

Tapping Sequence:
This anger and resentment;
All this anger and resentment that there’s too much to do
They don’t understand that this is impossible to get done;
And they don’t even acknowledge all my hard work;
Why do I even bother?
They really take me for granted;
I’m really angry that they don’t appreciate all that I do;
I’m resentful that they just expect me to get it done.

Round 3

Setup: Even though I may have taken on too much because it’s hard to say no, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even though I want to please everyone instead of taking care of me, I respect who I am anyway. Even though I’m afraid I’ll be rejected if I say no, I love and accept who I am.

Tapping Sequence
It’s hard for me to say “no” to people
What if they get angry at me?
Or reject me?
I wonder where this fear of saying “no” comes from?
Was I allowed to say “no” as a child?
Was I praised in the past for taking on more than I could safely manage?
For some reason it doesn’t feel safe to say “no”.
I choose to give myself permission to say “no”.

Tapping into Forgiveness

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Round 1:

Even though I still feel the pain of this injury and it doesn’t feel safe to let the anger go, I deeply and profoundly respect who I am anyway. (repeat 3 times)

This pain still feels so raw
All this anger and pain
I’m so angry about this
How could he/she do this to me?
Feeling this anger is safer than feeling the pain
I need this anger
I refuse to let go of this anger
This anger is my protection, and it’s not safe to let it go

Round 2:

Even though I still feel some of this anger and I don’t want to let him/her off the hook, I deeply and completely love who I am anyway. (repeat 3 times)

This remaining pain and anger
I don’t want to let him/her off the hook
They need to know how much they hurt me
They need to pay for what they did
If I let this anger go, I might be vulnerable to another attack
I still need this anger to keep me safe
I need to protect this pain with my anger
I refuse to see the part I played in this

(Repeat Rounds 1 & 2 if intensity level did not drop 3 or more on the 0 – 10 scale)

Round 3:

Even though a part of me wants to let this anger go, a part of me still wants to hold onto it, and I’m pulling for both part. (Repeat 3 times)

I want to let go of this anger
No I don’t
Yes I do
This anger is only hurting me and I choose to let it go
I choose to let this anger go
I no longer choose to give him/her my power
I choose to reclaim my power by letting this anger go
They do not deserve all this energy.

(Repeat rounds 2 & 3 until the intensity of the anger is at zero. Feel free to choose whatever words or feelings that are coming up for you.)

January 20, 2010 - Tapping your way to confidence

Even though I don't want to feel safe and confident because this not my reality right now, I deeply and profoundly love and accept who I am in this moment. (repeat this 3 times)

I want to feel safe and confident
I don't feel safe and confident right now
How can I feel safe?
I don't remember what that feels like
I want to feel confident
But confidence means I have to go out in the world
And that is not safe
I don't want to feel rejected and be reminded that I don't belong

There's a part of me that wants to remember
But there's another part of me that's afraid to feel confident
I want both parts to win
I feel safe
No I don't
Yes I do
I want to release this fear so I can feel confident and safe
No I don't
Yes I do

I'm ready to move into the world
I'm ready to feel successful, powerful and free
I'm ready to feel good about myself again
I'm ready to release this fear so I can live again
I'm ready to fully embrace the confident part in myself
I give myself permission to let this fear go
I choose to feel safe and confident
I choose to feel successful, powerful and free

Tapping on Anger

Even though I don't want to let go of this anger, I deeply and completley love and respect who I am anyway.

Round 1 (while tuning into an event that triggered the anger:
All this anger
All this rage and anger
I feel betrayed
I am burning up with rage anger
This pain of betrayal
It's hard for me to let this go
I refuse to let this go and let them off the hook
It doesn't feel safe to let this anger go

Round 2:

All this anger
I'm afraid to let it go
All this rage and anger
What if I let it go and it happens again?
What if I release it and he/she gets away with what they did?
This anger protects me
So I can't let it go
I won't let it go and no one can make me!

Round 3:

Even though a part of me is still holding on to some of this anger, another part of me wants to be free of it, and I am pulling for each part.

Deep down in side I want to be free of this anger
I am ready to look at what I need to change
No I'm not
Yes I am
I am ready to feel free of this anger
No I'm not
Yes I am
I give myself permission to release this anger

Round 4:

Even though there's still a small part of me that wants to hold on to the anger, I allow myself to speak my truth and release the pattern in me that created this.

I choose to release this anger
It is not serving my higher good
I choose to look at a healthier way to protect myself
Deep down inside I know what I need to do
I allow myself to recognize my part in this
I'm ready to make the necessary change to release this pattern
I choose to be free
I choose freedom from this way of being

Monday Tapping Affirmation

If you are feeling rejected, isolated, or subborn, ask yourself what you are not willing to hear. Then tap on "this fear of hearing what I need to know". End your session with this affirmation: "I choose to be open to what the universe has to say and rejoice in what I am able to hear!"

Friday Tapping Affirmation

Even though I have all this stored up stress from the week, I choose to lovingly release this toxic energy. (as you go through the tapping sequence be sure to tap on the specific events that created the stress)