If you don't know how to perform the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) copy and paste this URL to access instructions: http://www.lifeworkswitheft.com/pdf/eft_short_cut_method.pdf
Round 1:
Even though I still feel the pain of this injury and it doesn’t feel safe to let the anger go, I deeply and profoundly respect who I am anyway. (repeat 3 times)
This pain still feels so raw
All this anger and pain
I’m so angry about this
How could he/she do this to me?
Feeling this anger is safer than feeling the pain
I need this anger
I refuse to let go of this anger
This anger is my protection, and it’s not safe to let it go
Round 2:
Even though I still feel some of this anger and I don’t want to let him/her off the hook, I deeply and completely love who I am anyway. (repeat 3 times)
This remaining pain and anger
I don’t want to let him/her off the hook
They need to know how much they hurt me
They need to pay for what they did
If I let this anger go, I might be vulnerable to another attack
I still need this anger to keep me safe
I need to protect this pain with my anger
I refuse to see the part I played in this
(Repeat Rounds 1 & 2 if intensity level did not drop 3 or more on the 0 – 10 scale)
Round 3:
Even though a part of me wants to let this anger go, a part of me still wants to hold onto it, and I’m pulling for both part. (Repeat 3 times)
I want to let go of this anger
No I don’t
Yes I do
This anger is only hurting me and I choose to let it go
I choose to let this anger go
I no longer choose to give him/her my power
I choose to reclaim my power by letting this anger go
They do not deserve all this energy.
(Repeat rounds 2 & 3 until the intensity of the anger is at zero. Feel free to choose whatever words or feelings that are coming up for you.)
Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Forgiveness. Show all posts
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Friday, July 31, 2009
Why Should I Forgive You?
It's practically impossible to go through life without being hurt by somebody. Most of us humans have a hard time letting go of such injuries and carry these scars of pain, resentment and anger with us for months, years, or even a lifetime.
Forgiveness can be a difficult concept to understand. I often hear, "If I forgive her, then she got away with what they did". Or, “Forgiving him would mean I accept what he did to me.” My response to this: “So, not to forgive is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn’t do to you) and expecting them to die!”
In reality, forgiveness is not letting the person of the hook for what they did or didn’t do, it’s releasing the barbed hook that continues to cause you pain and suffering so your wound can heal. Forgiveness is one of the greatest acts of self love you can do.
Think about it…Anger, resentment and pain take a lot of energy. When there’s more energy going out than coming in, you are operating from an energy deficit. This sets you up for depression, disease, and/or chronic physical pain. If you are continuing to harbor “ill feelings” towards someone, who are you really hurting? YOU! So, I ask you, is this person worth all this energy you continue to give them?
Now you might be asking, “OK, I understand that forgiveness is something I do for me and my own healing, but how do I go about forgiving someone if all if feel is anger and pain when I think about this person? The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a perfect tool to use to get you to a place of forgiveness.
EFT can collapse the energy disruptions that trigger the emotional toxins when tuned into the hurtful event. When you no longer feel angry and resentful, you can gain objectivity and emotional distance from the event. This clarity will often lead you to a new perspective. Mostly pain begets pain. Whenever you have been the one who has been the source of pain for someone else, it is because you were in pain, right? When you recognize the person who hurt you must have been hurting terribly themselves, forgiveness comes much easier.
Forgiveness can be a difficult concept to understand. I often hear, "If I forgive her, then she got away with what they did". Or, “Forgiving him would mean I accept what he did to me.” My response to this: “So, not to forgive is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn’t do to you) and expecting them to die!”
In reality, forgiveness is not letting the person of the hook for what they did or didn’t do, it’s releasing the barbed hook that continues to cause you pain and suffering so your wound can heal. Forgiveness is one of the greatest acts of self love you can do.
Think about it…Anger, resentment and pain take a lot of energy. When there’s more energy going out than coming in, you are operating from an energy deficit. This sets you up for depression, disease, and/or chronic physical pain. If you are continuing to harbor “ill feelings” towards someone, who are you really hurting? YOU! So, I ask you, is this person worth all this energy you continue to give them?
Now you might be asking, “OK, I understand that forgiveness is something I do for me and my own healing, but how do I go about forgiving someone if all if feel is anger and pain when I think about this person? The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a perfect tool to use to get you to a place of forgiveness.
EFT can collapse the energy disruptions that trigger the emotional toxins when tuned into the hurtful event. When you no longer feel angry and resentful, you can gain objectivity and emotional distance from the event. This clarity will often lead you to a new perspective. Mostly pain begets pain. Whenever you have been the one who has been the source of pain for someone else, it is because you were in pain, right? When you recognize the person who hurt you must have been hurting terribly themselves, forgiveness comes much easier.
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