Even though I don't want to feel safe and confident because this not my reality right now, I deeply and profoundly love and accept who I am in this moment. (repeat this 3 times)
I want to feel safe and confident
I don't feel safe and confident right now
How can I feel safe?
I don't remember what that feels like
I want to feel confident
But confidence means I have to go out in the world
And that is not safe
I don't want to feel rejected and be reminded that I don't belong
There's a part of me that wants to remember
But there's another part of me that's afraid to feel confident
I want both parts to win
I feel safe
No I don't
Yes I do
I want to release this fear so I can feel confident and safe
No I don't
Yes I do
I'm ready to move into the world
I'm ready to feel successful, powerful and free
I'm ready to feel good about myself again
I'm ready to release this fear so I can live again
I'm ready to fully embrace the confident part in myself
I give myself permission to let this fear go
I choose to feel safe and confident
I choose to feel successful, powerful and free
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Tapping on Anger
Even though I don't want to let go of this anger, I deeply and completley love and respect who I am anyway.
Round 1 (while tuning into an event that triggered the anger:
All this anger
All this rage and anger
I feel betrayed
I am burning up with rage anger
This pain of betrayal
It's hard for me to let this go
I refuse to let this go and let them off the hook
It doesn't feel safe to let this anger go
Round 2:
All this anger
I'm afraid to let it go
All this rage and anger
What if I let it go and it happens again?
What if I release it and he/she gets away with what they did?
This anger protects me
So I can't let it go
I won't let it go and no one can make me!
Round 3:
Even though a part of me is still holding on to some of this anger, another part of me wants to be free of it, and I am pulling for each part.
Deep down in side I want to be free of this anger
I am ready to look at what I need to change
No I'm not
Yes I am
I am ready to feel free of this anger
No I'm not
Yes I am
I give myself permission to release this anger
Round 4:
Even though there's still a small part of me that wants to hold on to the anger, I allow myself to speak my truth and release the pattern in me that created this.
I choose to release this anger
It is not serving my higher good
I choose to look at a healthier way to protect myself
Deep down inside I know what I need to do
I allow myself to recognize my part in this
I'm ready to make the necessary change to release this pattern
I choose to be free
I choose freedom from this way of being
Round 1 (while tuning into an event that triggered the anger:
All this anger
All this rage and anger
I feel betrayed
I am burning up with rage anger
This pain of betrayal
It's hard for me to let this go
I refuse to let this go and let them off the hook
It doesn't feel safe to let this anger go
Round 2:
All this anger
I'm afraid to let it go
All this rage and anger
What if I let it go and it happens again?
What if I release it and he/she gets away with what they did?
This anger protects me
So I can't let it go
I won't let it go and no one can make me!
Round 3:
Even though a part of me is still holding on to some of this anger, another part of me wants to be free of it, and I am pulling for each part.
Deep down in side I want to be free of this anger
I am ready to look at what I need to change
No I'm not
Yes I am
I am ready to feel free of this anger
No I'm not
Yes I am
I give myself permission to release this anger
Round 4:
Even though there's still a small part of me that wants to hold on to the anger, I allow myself to speak my truth and release the pattern in me that created this.
I choose to release this anger
It is not serving my higher good
I choose to look at a healthier way to protect myself
Deep down inside I know what I need to do
I allow myself to recognize my part in this
I'm ready to make the necessary change to release this pattern
I choose to be free
I choose freedom from this way of being
Monday, January 18, 2010
Monday Tapping Affirmation
If you are feeling rejected, isolated, or subborn, ask yourself what you are not willing to hear. Then tap on "this fear of hearing what I need to know". End your session with this affirmation: "I choose to be open to what the universe has to say and rejoice in what I am able to hear!"
Friday, January 15, 2010
Friday Tapping Affirmation
Even though I have all this stored up stress from the week, I choose to lovingly release this toxic energy. (as you go through the tapping sequence be sure to tap on the specific events that created the stress)
Monday, November 16, 2009
How Does EFT Work and How Can I Learn it?
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a universal healing modality that is easy enough for a school-aged child to learn but is powerful enough to assist people with everything from debilitating phobias to serious health conditions. By gently stimulating the body’s subtle energy system on specific tapping points of the head and upper body, EFT quickly clears the body of energy disruptions that cause physical and emotional dis-ease.
Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, has made this technique available to all by offering the EFT Manual free of charge through his website www.emofree.com. Over 1 million people worldwide have downloaded the instruction manual which is now translated in 14 languages.
EFT YouTube videos offers visual demonstrations which are a fun and effective way to learn EFT. EFT scripts are also available that can enhance your personal practice. I offer a monthly EFT Circle. This is a powerful venue for developing the art of EFT while being guided through the process in a safe and supportive environment. For more information log onto http://www.lifeworkswitheft.com/whats-happening-at-lifeworks.htm.
Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, has made this technique available to all by offering the EFT Manual free of charge through his website www.emofree.com. Over 1 million people worldwide have downloaded the instruction manual which is now translated in 14 languages.
EFT YouTube videos offers visual demonstrations which are a fun and effective way to learn EFT. EFT scripts are also available that can enhance your personal practice. I offer a monthly EFT Circle. This is a powerful venue for developing the art of EFT while being guided through the process in a safe and supportive environment. For more information log onto http://www.lifeworkswitheft.com/whats-happening-at-lifeworks.htm.
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
EFT Help for Veterans
All our Vets are on the forefront of my mind today - Veterans Day. So I want all of you who are suffering from post war trauma, anxiety, depression, stress, or addiction that there is no need to suffer.
There are so many individuals and organizations who are willing and able to offer their services free of charge. I not only offer free sessions, using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), to any post-war vet, but I'm also a member of Give an Hour (giveanhour.org).
EFT has been clinically proven to collapse the underlying issues that support the symptoms of PTSD and most other conditions our Vets experience. Please check out the video titled "EFT for War Veterans" at http://emofree.com/freevideos.aspx.
I realize it's not easy to reach out for help. Please remember, when you suffer all who love you and support you suffer along with you. You committed your life for us; now allow us to give back to you.
With love and appreciation,
Forrest
There are so many individuals and organizations who are willing and able to offer their services free of charge. I not only offer free sessions, using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), to any post-war vet, but I'm also a member of Give an Hour (giveanhour.org).
EFT has been clinically proven to collapse the underlying issues that support the symptoms of PTSD and most other conditions our Vets experience. Please check out the video titled "EFT for War Veterans" at http://emofree.com/freevideos.aspx.
I realize it's not easy to reach out for help. Please remember, when you suffer all who love you and support you suffer along with you. You committed your life for us; now allow us to give back to you.
With love and appreciation,
Forrest
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Teens, Sex, and YOU
Forrest Samnik, LCSW, EFT Cert-I, CCH
Statistics regarding sexually behavior among teenagers can be taken with a grain of salt. Because society has a controversial relationship to sex in general, and at best marginalizes teen sexuality, this population has many reasons to hide their sex lives from adults, and little reason to be honest. This probably accounts for the fluctuating data I’m finding about teens and sex.
Most of the research appears to support the conclusion that teenagers are waiting to have vaginal intercourse. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), the percentage of 12th-grade students in the U.S. who reported having had intercourse declined from 66.7% in 1991 to 60.5% in 2001.
The reason for this may be that teens are engaging in anal and oral sex instead. For example, the CDC reports that more than 50% of U.S. teens ages 15 to 19 have engaged in oral sex. This number increases to almost 70% for those who are 18 and 19. Several media reports suggest that anal sex among teens 15 to 19 have increased, but the CDC is stating that anal sex among teens has stayed steady at 11% between 1995 and 2002.
Dr. Laura Berman, who is a regular guest on TV programs including Oprah, Dr. Oz, and the Today Show, believes teens are engaging in both oral and anal sex because they think it’s safe and they are keeping their virginity intact.
Information is power when it comes to your teenager making informed decisions about their sexual behavior. Here are some facts they need to know:
• Many common STDs can be transmitted via oral sex (fellatio or cunnilingus) and anal sex. These include: Hepatitis B, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Herpes, HIV, Human papilloma virus (HPV), Nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), Syphilis, and Yeast infections
• It’s estimated that 20 million Americans between the ages of 15 - 49 have an active HPV infection.
• In many cases, a STD can be transmitted even if the penis or tongue doesn’t go all the way in to the vagina, mouth or rectum and even if it isn’t obvious that body fluids are exchanged.
• The most dangerous HPV's, 16 and 18, which are transmitted through sexual contact are known to cause up to 95% of cervical cancers. Now these two HPV's are also being linked to oral cancer and anal cancer.
• Evidence suggests that people with multiple sexual partners have a much higher incidence of HPV and cervical cancer
The best way to make sure your pre-teens and teens are making safe and educated decisions about sex is to have age-appropriate conversations (emphasis on plural) early and often that include information about their own bodies, your family values as it relates to sex, and facts relating to pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. With so much media coverage these days about teen sex, there are many teachable moments.
Many parents are not comfortable talking with their children about sex. Should this be the case for you, there are many very good books available to help you. Dr. Berman has a new one titled, “Talking to Your Kids About Sex”. If you prefer to be “coached” before engaging in these kinds of conversations with your kids, I would be honored to guide you. Feel free to call or email me to discuss this option. You are also welcome to call (727) 781-6567 or email (forrest@LifeWorksWithEFT.com) any questions or concerns you have and I’ll be sure to address these in future newsletters or news briefs.
Good luck Mom and Dad!
Statistics regarding sexually behavior among teenagers can be taken with a grain of salt. Because society has a controversial relationship to sex in general, and at best marginalizes teen sexuality, this population has many reasons to hide their sex lives from adults, and little reason to be honest. This probably accounts for the fluctuating data I’m finding about teens and sex.
Most of the research appears to support the conclusion that teenagers are waiting to have vaginal intercourse. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), the percentage of 12th-grade students in the U.S. who reported having had intercourse declined from 66.7% in 1991 to 60.5% in 2001.
The reason for this may be that teens are engaging in anal and oral sex instead. For example, the CDC reports that more than 50% of U.S. teens ages 15 to 19 have engaged in oral sex. This number increases to almost 70% for those who are 18 and 19. Several media reports suggest that anal sex among teens 15 to 19 have increased, but the CDC is stating that anal sex among teens has stayed steady at 11% between 1995 and 2002.
Dr. Laura Berman, who is a regular guest on TV programs including Oprah, Dr. Oz, and the Today Show, believes teens are engaging in both oral and anal sex because they think it’s safe and they are keeping their virginity intact.
Information is power when it comes to your teenager making informed decisions about their sexual behavior. Here are some facts they need to know:
• Many common STDs can be transmitted via oral sex (fellatio or cunnilingus) and anal sex. These include: Hepatitis B, Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Herpes, HIV, Human papilloma virus (HPV), Nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), Syphilis, and Yeast infections
• It’s estimated that 20 million Americans between the ages of 15 - 49 have an active HPV infection.
• In many cases, a STD can be transmitted even if the penis or tongue doesn’t go all the way in to the vagina, mouth or rectum and even if it isn’t obvious that body fluids are exchanged.
• The most dangerous HPV's, 16 and 18, which are transmitted through sexual contact are known to cause up to 95% of cervical cancers. Now these two HPV's are also being linked to oral cancer and anal cancer.
• Evidence suggests that people with multiple sexual partners have a much higher incidence of HPV and cervical cancer
The best way to make sure your pre-teens and teens are making safe and educated decisions about sex is to have age-appropriate conversations (emphasis on plural) early and often that include information about their own bodies, your family values as it relates to sex, and facts relating to pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. With so much media coverage these days about teen sex, there are many teachable moments.
Many parents are not comfortable talking with their children about sex. Should this be the case for you, there are many very good books available to help you. Dr. Berman has a new one titled, “Talking to Your Kids About Sex”. If you prefer to be “coached” before engaging in these kinds of conversations with your kids, I would be honored to guide you. Feel free to call or email me to discuss this option. You are also welcome to call (727) 781-6567 or email (forrest@LifeWorksWithEFT.com) any questions or concerns you have and I’ll be sure to address these in future newsletters or news briefs.
Good luck Mom and Dad!
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